My husband once again surprises me
My hubby continually surprises me with how thoughtful and caring he can be.
Last night, he went to the store to buy the flowering willow tree for our memorial. He called me and said that Lowes didnt have what we needed, and he had to go to another town to get the one that we were looking for.
When James got back from the store, he and his brother (who lives next door) went outside for a little bit, and I figured they were talking about where the best place would be to put the tree. I was making dinner, so I couldn't go out there at that time.
I finally did come out with a flashlight, after they had been out there a while. I noticed that they were carrying not one, but two trees with them over on our field.
I was confused but kept watching.... they put the trees down, turned around, went back to the truck, and got TWO MORE trees out of the truck!
I said to my husband, "Wow! You got four trees?"
He said, "Actually, there's one more in the truck!", and he gave me a happy smile.
Then he told me what his plan was.... he had bought one of the Japanese weeping cherry willow trees for the center, where the baby would be buried. But he bought four of the Snow fountain cherry willows to place around the weeping cherry tree....at four corners around the tree!
James told me that when he got there and was going to purchase the tree, he felt that one tree just wouldn't be enough. It just wasn't enough for something so special.
He and his brother spent about 2 hours with the trees to get them perfectly aligned and spaced out. Then they planted the four on the corners themselves while I fed the kids supper and cleaned up.
When they were finished planting the four trees on the corners, they left the last one for James and me to go out and plant alone....and James brother watched our kids for us (they were already sleeping by the time we went out there).
We went out with our flashlight and a lantern, and the box which carried our baby, "Blessing".
James had already dug out the hole, and we placed the box then the tree inside and covered them...then we sat for a few moments holding each other and talking about how we felt. We then took a walk around our block just talking. It was so nice to have that alone time with him.
They may not look like much right now, but the trees are going to be absolutely gorgeous when they bloom next year. Also, this morning, James' mother gave us a beautiful, bright red tulip to plant beside the center tree. It really, really stands out, and it should spread out over the years.
Last night, he went to the store to buy the flowering willow tree for our memorial. He called me and said that Lowes didnt have what we needed, and he had to go to another town to get the one that we were looking for.
When James got back from the store, he and his brother (who lives next door) went outside for a little bit, and I figured they were talking about where the best place would be to put the tree. I was making dinner, so I couldn't go out there at that time.
I finally did come out with a flashlight, after they had been out there a while. I noticed that they were carrying not one, but two trees with them over on our field.
I was confused but kept watching.... they put the trees down, turned around, went back to the truck, and got TWO MORE trees out of the truck!
I said to my husband, "Wow! You got four trees?"
He said, "Actually, there's one more in the truck!", and he gave me a happy smile.
Then he told me what his plan was.... he had bought one of the Japanese weeping cherry willow trees for the center, where the baby would be buried. But he bought four of the Snow fountain cherry willows to place around the weeping cherry tree....at four corners around the tree!
James told me that when he got there and was going to purchase the tree, he felt that one tree just wouldn't be enough. It just wasn't enough for something so special.
He and his brother spent about 2 hours with the trees to get them perfectly aligned and spaced out. Then they planted the four on the corners themselves while I fed the kids supper and cleaned up.
When they were finished planting the four trees on the corners, they left the last one for James and me to go out and plant alone....and James brother watched our kids for us (they were already sleeping by the time we went out there).
We went out with our flashlight and a lantern, and the box which carried our baby, "Blessing".
James had already dug out the hole, and we placed the box then the tree inside and covered them...then we sat for a few moments holding each other and talking about how we felt. We then took a walk around our block just talking. It was so nice to have that alone time with him.
They may not look like much right now, but the trees are going to be absolutely gorgeous when they bloom next year. Also, this morning, James' mother gave us a beautiful, bright red tulip to plant beside the center tree. It really, really stands out, and it should spread out over the years.
Bethany, the way you planted the memorial sounds amazingly beautiful! I'm so happy you have closure, and the picture you posted of your baby's hands is amazing. I'm still praying for your family. Lots of hugs Tonya
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Bethany, I haven't said much to you throughout your ordeal, but I've been reading your posts and am so moved by what you've shared, the good and the bad, of your miscarriage. I've never had a miscarriage, so I wasn't aware of what it was like, physically and emotionally. But thanks to you I can be far more empathetic to anyone I know that goes through this. Thanks for bravely sharing your experiences and thoughts with your readers. You're doing a beautiful job of memorializing your little one here on earth. ((hug))
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Hi Bethany I've been visiting your blog since your featured Tammy's pizza. I am so sorry to hear about your precious baby. My mother had a still born baby many years ago and she had the funeral home take a picture of her little baby boy. I love to look at the picture. Have you thought about a name for your baby? One that would be fitting for either a boy or girl? And having the middle name be your maiden name? Could James make a marker out of cement? It would be something honorable for your little family member. Then you could put flowers there often.. like I do for my brother. Just a thought. I thank you for sharing the picture of your baby's hands. So precious. It's educational for people to see how quickly a baby develops. Thanks for the courage to share this happening on your blog. You are helping so many people.. ones that you may never know about. I'm a tea friend of Tammy's and she blogged about the pizza you made from her recipe. I watched the video you included. Now I feel like I know you and I'm addicted to your blog.
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Bethany, I am so sorry for your loss. What sweet, darling little baby hands. I am glad you feel some closure. I don't know you that well, but I love you in Christ. Please know that I am and have been praying for you. Love, Deb
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Bethany,
That sounds so beautiful. I can imagine it, and I think that you and James did a wonderful thing in honor of your "Blessing". I truly hope that this has brought you a little more peace.
It seems we are playing tag! Monday is good for me, the kids are home from school (again!), and mornings are usually very busy, but I will do my best!
I hope you are having a great Sunday!
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Tonya, thank you so much! ((hugs)) You're such a sweet person.
Kim, that makes me feel so happy that something good might come of the many posts about the miscarriage. I am hoping that it will help others who are going through the same thing to know that they are not alone in their pain...and to know that there is always a purpose in everything, even if we can't see it. And I'm thankful to know that it has helped you to see how miscarriage affects other people. I understand what you mean because before this happened, although I was truly sympathetic to my friends who lost their babies to miscarriage, I never truly understood what they had gone through. I knew nothing of the physical and emotional pain...now that I do know and understand, I can help other people with more empathy and understanding...and that is one good thing that has come of this.
Lin, thank you so much for coming to my blog and visiting often. I am so glad that you found me through Tammy's site.
I have named the baby, although I did not come up with a middle name - at least not yet. Since I do not know whether the baby was a girl or a boy, I wanted to name it something that would work for either...and I finally decided that since I had already been referring to the baby these last few months as "my newest blessing", I decided that the name had to be "Blessing".
I am planning to get a stone and paint it with details about the baby and place it by the tree. >>>hugs<<<
Deborah, thank you so much...it means a lot to me that you care!
Jill, I do hope that we'll eventually get to talk! Sorry it's been difficult the last few days! If you're not able to get on in the morning, I will try again in the afternoon! Looking forward to our chat!
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What a beautiful memorial! I am just in awe at the way you are coping with this. Who would have thought to plant trees as a memorial to your little Blessing. Now you can watch the trees grow and change through out the seasons. You must live somewhere warm, I wouldn't even be able to stick a shovel in the ground yet here, it's still frozen! Oh and the Tulip from your mother in law, how thoughtful! Tulips are my favorite flower, mine are just starting to poke out of the ground, I can't wait until they are in full bloom, what a beautiful sight!
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I couldn't agree more, Melissa...thank you so much for commenting!
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